Showing posts with label Middle Schoolers. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Middle Schoolers. Show all posts

Friday, August 4, 2017

Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?

From The Atlantic, By Jene M. Twenge

More comfortable online than out partying, post-Millennials are safer, physically, than adolescents have ever been. But they’re on the brink of a mental-health crisis.


One day last summer, around noon, I called Athena, a 13-year-old who lives in Houston, Texas. She answered her phone—she’s had an iPhone since she was 11—sounding as if she’d just woken up. We chatted about her favorite songs and TV shows, and I asked her what she likes to do with her friends. “We go to the mall,” she said. “Do your parents drop you off?,” I asked, recalling my own middle-school days, in the 1980s, when I’d enjoy a few parent-free hours shopping with my friends. “No—I go with my family,” she replied. “We’ll go with my mom and brothers and walk a little behind them. I just have to tell my mom where we’re going. I have to check in every hour or every 30 minutes.”

Those mall trips are infrequent—about once a month. More often, Athena and her friends spend time together on their phones, unchaperoned. Unlike the teens of my generation, who might have spent an evening tying up the family landline with gossip, they talk on Snapchat, the smartphone app that allows users to send pictures and videos that quickly disappear. They make sure to keep up their Snapstreaks, which show how many days in a row they have Snapchatted with each other. Sometimes they save screenshots of particularly ridiculous pictures of friends. “It’s good blackmail,” Athena said. (Because she’s a minor, I’m not using her real name.) She told me she’d spent most of the summer hanging out alone in her room with her phone. That’s just the way her generation is, she said. “We didn’t have a choice to know any life without iPads or iPhones. I think we like our phones more than we like actual people.”

I’ve been researching generational differences for 25 years, starting when I was a 22-year-old doctoral student in psychology. Typically, the characteristics that come to define a generation appear gradually, and along a continuum. Beliefs and behaviors that were already rising simply continue to do so. Millennials, for instance, are a highly individualistic generation, but individualism had been increasing since the Baby Boomers turned on, tuned in, and dropped out. I had grown accustomed to line graphs of trends that looked like modest hills and valleys. Then I began studying Athena’s generation.

Around 2012, I noticed abrupt shifts in teen behaviors and emotional states. The gentle slopes of the line graphs became steep mountains and sheer cliffs, and many of the distinctive characteristics of the Millennial generation began to disappear. In all my analyses of generational data—some reaching back to the 1930s—I had never seen anything like it.

At first I presumed these might be blips, but the trends persisted, across several years and a series of national surveys. The changes weren’t just in degree, but in kind. The biggest difference between the Millennials and their predecessors was in how they viewed the world; teens today differ from the Millennials not just in their views but in how they spend their time. The experiences they have every day are radically different from those of the generation that came of age just a few years before them.

What happened in 2012 to cause such dramatic shifts in behavior? It was after the Great Recession, which officially lasted from 2007 to 2009 and had a starker effect on Millennials trying to find a place in a sputtering economy. But it was exactly the moment when the proportion of Americans who owned a smartphone surpassed 50 percent.

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Monday, May 15, 2017

Mother Teresa's Words to the Sisters of Charity...and to Us


Jesus wants me to tell you again...how much love He has for each one of you—beyond all you can imagine. I worry some of you still have not really met Jesus—one to one—you and Jesus alone. We may spend time in chapel—but have you seen with the eyes of your soul how He looks at you with love? Do you really know the living Jesus—not from books but from being with Him in your heart? Have you heard the loving words He speaks to you? Ask for the grace, He is longing to give it. Until you can hear Jesus in the silence of your own heart, you will not be able to hear Him saying “I thirst” in the hearts of the poor. Never give up this daily intimate contact with Jesus as the real living person—not just the idea. How can we last even one day without hearing Jesus say “I love you”—impossible.

Our soul needs that as much as the body needs to breathe the air. If not, prayer is dead—meditation-only thinking. Jesus wants you each to hear Him—speaking in the silence of your heart. Be careful of all that can block that personal contact with the living Jesus. The devil may try to use the hurts of life, and sometimes our own mistakes—to make you feel it is impossible that Jesus really loves you, is really cleaving to you. This is a danger for all of us. And so sad, because it is completely opposite of what Jesus is really wanting, waiting to tell you. Not only that He loves you, but even more—He longs for you. He misses you when you don’t come close.

He thirsts for you. He loves you always, even when you don’t feel worthy. When not accepted by others, even by yourself sometimes—He is the one who always accepts you. My children, you don’t have to be different for Jesus to love you.

Only believe—You are precious to Him. Bring all you are suffering to His feet—only open your heart to be loved by Him as your are. He will do the rest.

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Don't We All


I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car. I had just come from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to get out of work. Coming my way from across the parking lot was what society would consider a bum. From the looks of him, he had no car, no home, no clean clothes, and no money. There are times when you feel generous but there are other times that you just don't want to be bothered. This was one of those "don't want to be bothered times."

"I hope he doesn't ask me for any money," I thought.

He didn't.

He came and sat on the curb in front of the bus stop but he didn't look like he could have enough money to even ride the bus.

After a few minutes he spoke.

"That's a very pretty car," he said.

He was ragged but he had an air of dignity around him. His scraggly blond beard keep more than his face warm.

I said, "thanks," and continued wiping off my car.

He sat there quietly as I worked. The expected plea for money never came. As the silence between us widened something inside said, "ask him if he needs any help." I was sure that he would say "yes" but I held true to the inner voice.

"Do you need any help?" I asked.

He answered in three simple but profound words that I shall never forget. We often look for wisdom in great men and women. We expect it from those of higher learning and accomplishments. I expected nothing but an outstretched grimy hand. He spoke the three words that shook me.

"Don't we all?" he said.

I was feeling high and mighty, successful and important, above a bum in the street, until those three words hit me like a twelve gauge shotgun.

Don't we all?

I needed help. Maybe not for bus fare or a place to sleep, but I needed help. I reached in my wallet and gave him not only enough for bus fare, but enough to get a warm meal and shelter for the day. Those three little words still ring true. No matter how much you have, no matter how much you have accomplished, you need help too. No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money or a place to sleep, you can give help. Even if it's just a compliment, you can give that.

You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all. They are waiting on you to give them what they don't have. A different perspective on life, a glimpse at something beautiful, a respite from daily chaos, that only you through a torn world can see.

Maybe the man was just a homeless stranger wandering the streets. Maybe he was more than that. Maybe he was sent by a power that is great and wise, to minister to a soul too comfortable in themselves.

Maybe God looked down, called an Angel, dressed him like a bum, then said, "go minister to that man cleaning the car, that man needs help."

Don't we all?

-- Author Unknown

Sunday, January 8, 2017

A Note to Good Fighters

Dear Good Fighters,

Between the long Christmas break and the snow causing us to cancel Family Ministry, I miss you. Like most of you, I've been stuck at home the last couple weeks. I've been trying to get everything ready for our upcoming meetings and ministry, but there's only so much I can do at home. At Mass today, Fr. Radmar preached at St. Paul's BSU about ENCOUNTER. He even had us turn to someone we didn't know, learn the person's name, and encounter the person for one minute. Our faith, our Church, and our God are all about the ENCOUNTER.

Even though you may be stuck at home, God wants to ENCOUNTER you today.

God wants a relationship with you. God wants to love you. God wants you to let him love you. We have so many broken relationships around us (including our relationship with ourselves), but our relationship with God is the one relationship that will never be broken. You are loved as you are, loved where you are going, and loved without condition.

This Sunday at Good Fighters our topic was going to be FOLLOW: How does God guide us into the full life? Even though we can't meet, I invite you to watch the Alpha video below. Think about it. Pray about it. Talk about it. Then, if you're serious about encountering God, journal about this question:

Let’s say God has a plan for your life. Imagine God is giving you a guidebook to SEEK, FIND, and FULFILL that plan. Based on what you know about God, your life experience, what we’ve covered at Good Fighters, your gifts and desires, and your purpose in life, write what you imagine God telling you in your personalized guidebook.

We will add to the Guidebooks in the coming weeks. God is speaking to us. God wants to encounter us. Are we listening? I hope so.

Trying to FOLLOW and ENCOUNTER God alongside you,

Daniel

Sunday, August 21, 2016

Alpha

We are going to start a new series this fall called ALPHA. It's a chance to ask the biggest, most important questions of our lives as human beings. Will you come on this journey?

Get ready for ALPHA, beginning the first week of October.


Thursday, August 18, 2016

St. Teresa of Calcutta in One Infographic

Click on the infographic to enlarge. This comes from our friends at ChurchPop.com. See it in its original form here.
 

Saturday, August 6, 2016

Life and Death

Death scares us for many reasons. We are reminded of our own mortality—we will all die at some point. We mourn a life ending—a precious, unrepeatable life. We long for our loved one knowing he or she is gone—perhaps wondering about his or her fate. We adjust our lives in a new direction—a direction that can be unknown and painful. Death is scary. It always will be.

Though Jesus conquered death, though his Resurrection is meant to take the sting away, though Heaven is our ultimate goal and destination, though we have a Savior, we still get scared. We still mourn. We still struggle. And that’s OK.

Last week, two local teenagers died. Middleton teen Tucker Kunz lost his life in an automobile accident, and Rachel Dean, a student from Bishop Kelly and St. Mark’s Church, ended her earthly life. She must have felt an overwhelming multitude of emotions, perhaps deep loneliness and hopelessness. Though we may speculate, we cannot know all Rachel thought or felt. We cannot know her motivation or the sum of her experiences. We cannot assign blame to her or anyone.

But what can we do? We can and should mourn Tucker and Rachel. We can talk about Tucker and Rachel. We can talk about losing someone, especially someone so young. We can journal about how it saddens and scares us. We can share our sorrow with others and build up one another. We can do some of our favorite things Tucker and Rachel loved to do. We can hold a funeral and commend Tucker and Rachel to God’s care. We can pray for their eternal rest, for the comfort of their loved ones, and for our own understanding of the tragedy. Prayer doesn’t change God’s mind. Rather, prayer changes us. Prayer invites us to enter the story of creation God is authoring, to better understand and accept the joys and sorrows of this life.

Most of all, we can honor Tucker and Rachel by honoring the lives of each person we encounter. Every human life is precious and unrepeatable, no matter the choices a person makes. Disagree on politics? That person is still precious. Have an annoying sibling? Your sibling is precious. A beautiful newborn baby? Precious. A premature newborn baby with severe complications? Precious. An elderly person with dementia? Precious. Your most despised enemy? Precious. Your best friend? Precious.

Every single life matters. Tucker's life matters. Rachel’s life matters. Your life matters. Mine does too. Our lives matter because God made us, loves us, and put a reflection of Himself within us. The best way we can honor Tucker and Rachel, honor God, and honor ourselves is to treat every person with respect and love. We may not like every person we encounter (an internal emotional response), but we absolutely must love every person (an action-oriented choice).

That’s why we love babies in the womb, pregnant women, elderly, sick and suffering in need of comfort, children, those with disabilities, soldiers, refugees, homeless, hungry, lonely, lost, and vulnerable. Every life matters.

We celebrate life, and today, we celebrate Tucker and Rachel as their funerals takes place. Though they left us at a young age, their lives have great meaning. If they remind us to treat others with great love, then their legacy will continue long beyond earthly life. May the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

About All that Catholic Money: How the Church Serves the World, By the Numbers

This post is from ChurchPop.com. See it in its original form here.

“Whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.” – Jesus, Matthew 25.40

The Catholic Church does more to serve those in need than any other private organization in the world.

From Agenzia Fides, here are some numbers that represent at least a part of what the Church does (as of 2014):


Africa
Primary schools: 36,613 Secondary schools: 12,060
Hospitals: 1,298
Dispensaries: 5,256
Leprosy centers: 229
Homes for the elderly: 632
Orphanages: 1,398
Marriage counseling centers: 1,728

Asia
Primary schools: 16,097
Secondary schools: 10,450
Hospitals: 1,137
Dispensaries: 3,760
Leprosy centers: 322
Homes for the elderly: 2,520
Orphanages: 3,980
Marriage counseling centers: 933

The Americas
Primary schools: 23,195
Secondary schools: 10,965
Hospitals: 1,493
Dispensaries: 5,137
Leprosy centers: 72
Homes for the elderly: 3,815
Orphanages: 2,418
Marriage counseling centers: 5,636

Europe
Primary schools: 15,884
Secondary schools: 9,633
Hospitals: 1,039
Dispensaries: 2,637
Leprosy centers: 21
Homes for the elderly: 8,200
Orphanages: 2,194
Marriage counseling centers: 6,173

Oceania
Primary schools: 3,456
Secondary schools: 675
Hospitals: 200
Dispensaries: 532
Leprosy centers: 4
Homes for the elderly: 537
Orphanages: 134
Marriage counseling centers: 274

Thursday, June 30, 2016

Shifting Into a New Relationship

There will be conflict and arguments in relationships; it’s inevitable. But, we don’t have to let those situations cause irreparable damage. In this video, Fr. Mike Schmitz explains how conflict can help a couple move forward together. The key is to reassure each other that you’re both on the same team, and that you both have the same goal in mind—even though you may sometimes disagree when it comes to how to get there.


Monday, June 27, 2016

Saint Videos from Camp

Meet some of the saints we featured at Catholic Junior High Camp by watching the videos below filmed in a Carpool Karaoke-style a la James Corden.








12 Students Reveal What It’s Like Being Catholic in School These Days

 
This article is from ChurchPop.com. See it in its original form here.

Schools are where the next generation is formed.

Sometimes, negative things happen there but there is so much positive going on as well. I wanted to know how being Catholic positively affected students’ lives, so I asked them.

I offered a free student planner to the best response to a simple question: “What is different about you at school because you are Catholic?”

Here are the best 12 responses I got from high school and college students – just the age we often lose hope – and I’ll reveal who won at the end.

“My Catholic faith is the reason I am still in college. After wanting to give up numerous times and having gone down a wrong path in the past, my faith is the reason I have persevered so far, and why I feel at peace about the future.”
Dominique C., College Senior

“The thing most people notice is when I pray over my food at lunch. I’ve been praying over my food my whole life at home, but it took time for me to muster up the courage to make the sign of the cross in front of my peers.”
Almira M., grade 12

“I receive so much support and encouragement from my Confirmation sponsor, who is a priest. When I was thinking about what I’d like to study and do, he advised me to not look for a job or career, but to seek out my vocation instead. That really stuck with me.”
Michael H., grade 11

“Being Catholic at school means working hard to glorify God. It means offering up studying and waking up early to pray. Most importantly being a Catholic student means seeing my campus as a mission field to bring the Gospel message to each and every student.”
Patrick P., College Sophomore

“Every Thursday night, when most of the kids at my secular public university head downtown to drink and party, because I am Catholic, my friends and I head to the Catholic Center and have an hour of Adoration and fellowship.”
John B., College Junior

“Because I am Catholic I am able to share my faith with the crucifix I wear around my neck. People are able to come to me and ask questions – mainly Catholics who know I am a convert and am knowledgeable.”
Seth B., grade 11

“I’ve been very open about my Catholic faith this past year and everyone knows me now as the ‘Catholic’ one. It’s been really amazing because since I have that identity people have asked me questions about the faith, and I’ve even been able to get one girl interested in becoming Catholic.”
Alexandra M., grade 12

“I am involved in a few different faith based organizations, my roommate and I go to mass every Sunday and other holy days, and I’ve often explained the reason behind different Catholic holidays to classmates. As a science major, everything I learn makes me more amazed at what God is capable of.”
Rebecca P., College Junior

“I make daily mass, weekly confession & adoration, & evangelization opportunities priorities in my busy school & sorority schedule. I recently decided to ditch the underage drinking to better exhibit my faith & show others that there is another lifestyle choice that brings about true freedom, joy, & virtuous friendships.”
Hanna B., College Sophomore

“I try to remember the work that I do (probably lesson plans next semester for student teaching), despite all the stress, and no matter how unimportant it may seem can be for the greater glory of God if I unite my prayers works joys and sufferings with Him daily.”
Madeline, College Senior

“Being Catholic should not be like wearing a mask, it has become a part of who I am and who I am striving to become (a saint). I learned to forgive those who push me around and defend my faith when asked questions such as, why do you confess to a priest? Isn’t he just a man? Why do you people eat the body, are you cannibals? I learned that abortion is not ok and that being called a Catholic Church girl is a great compliment.”
Lovita V., College Freshman

And the winner is…

“One thing about have found compelling in my first year at Stephen F. Austin State University is my spiritual peace, specifically during finals. I would find myself in Adoration during study breaks seeking knowledge and guidance during rough times. Being Catholic gives me this opportunities and I cherish it.”
Alex C., College Sophomore

Alex won a free S2S: Student to Saint planner for the best response! A few of the responses above also deserved a planner too but I only had 1 planner.