Friday, May 29, 2015

Five Tips for Praying at Mass While Taking Care of a Toddler

By Susanna Spencer
ChurchPop

A lot of things change when you have your first baby, including your experience of going to church.

For the most part babies are easy to soothe and you will be able to pray during Mass. Then one day your sweet, easy to soothe baby at church turns into a toddler.

The toddler prefers to be moving continually throughout all of Mass, and she does not quite grasp the concept of a whisper. Sometimes she throws herself across the pew and announces loudly, “I AM A FISH!” Other times she repeats, “Donuts? Donuts?” for the entire hour. All the time you are either pacing in back, struggling in the pew, or resigned to sitting in the cry room. And you ask yourself, what happened to praying at church?

Well, have no fear! Here are a few ideas to help you learn how to pray while tending to toddlers at Mass:


1) Don’t stress about the quality of your prayer
Prayer is different now that you have a toddler to take care of. You are not going to be able to kneel with your eyes closed focusing on every word.

But you can be mindful of what is happening in the liturgy, and work on being calm. If you were called to contemplative prayer at every Mass, then you would not be taking care of a toddler.

2) Practice putting yourself in the presence of God throughout your day
St. Francis de Sales in The Introduction to the Devout Life gives very practical tips for prayer. One of the things he recommends, which is particularly adaptable to the lay life, is to recall your mind to the presence of God throughout the day. He says to frequently “retire into the solitude of your heart, even whilst you are externally occupied in business or society,” and that “this mental solitude need not be hindered though many persons are around you, for they do but surround your body, not your heart, which should remain alone in the presence of God.”

When you are stressed, internally place yourself in God’s presence. When you are washing dishes or cooking dinner, place yourself in God’s presence. When you are stuck in traffic and running late, place yourself in God’s presence.

Learning to put yourself in the presence of God, even while surrounded by screaming children, will greatly increase your ability to pray at Mass with a toddler.

3) Take time for quiet prayer outside of Mass
Finding time for prayer while parenting a toddler is difficult, but fortunately they need more sleep than we do. Taking even 10 minutes a day to focus on quiet, mental prayer, will bring you closer to God and make it easier to pray when you are not in quiet solitude. Prayer books like St. Francis de Sales’ Introduction to the Devout Life or Fr. Michael Gaitley’s Consoling the Heart of Jesus are a good way to learn how to develop a simple and focused life of prayer.

The more you pray outside of your weekly obligation of church, the better, and less frustrating, praying at Mass will be.

4) Participation does not mean the same thing for everybody
As a parent of a toddler, you quickly realize that the way you are to participate in Mass is much different than the way people with no or grown kids are to participate. You may not always get to stand when everyone else stands, you may be standing and pacing when everyone else is sitting or kneeling, or you may spend huge chunks of Mass outside the church doors, in the bathroom, or in the basement keeping your child from disrupting all of Mass.

What matters is that you are still there. The Lord knows that you are there and that you are trying. He also knows why you are not always in the pew in deep, contemplative prayer. He gave you this toddler, and He knows.

5) The Mass will go on
The best thing we can learn from taking a toddler to Mass is that the liturgy does not require us to pray as best we can every week. The liturgy needs to the priest to say the prayers and a server to aid the priest and say responses, but if some of the Body of Christ needs to live their vocation to parenthood, even at Mass, it does not keep the liturgy or the Sacrifice from happening.

So, just do your best, dear parents of toddlers. One day the toddlers will be quiet and grown, but for now, don’t sweat it. Your part of the Body of Christ is to be there with your child.

Wednesday, May 27, 2015

Your Average American Catholic

 
From America Magazine
May 18, 2015, by Mark M. Gray

What does the typical American Catholic look like? Surveys conducted by the Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate tell us she is a 48-year-old, non-Hispanic white, married woman with a Catholic spouse. She is of the post-Vatican II generation (born between 1961 and 1981). Born in 1968, she is probably named Mary, since the fourth most popular girl’s name for that year was Mary, and that name is not a bad choice, given the Catholic cultural odds, over Lisa, Kimberly or Michelle for our Catholic demographic stand-in.

CARA has been studying the Catholic Church for more than 50 years. In the last five, we have completed multiple national surveys of self-identified Catholic adults and of pastors. From these we can statistically discern what the “typical” or “average” Catholic experiences in the United States in this second decade of the 21st century.

‘Mary’ by the Numbers
“Mary” has attended college, owns a home and lives in a western state. The annual household income for her family is more than $65,000. She has a teenage son or daughter still living at home, and she works full time.

She has another adult child who no longer lives at home. Neither of these children is named Mary (this name fell out of the top 50 in 2002 and has been outside the top 100 since 2009). As a child, Mary did not go to Catholic schools as her parents did, and she did not enroll her children either. While she attended parish-based religious education, her children did not.

Currently, she attends Mass at least once a month and always on Ash Wednesday, Easter and Christmas. She keeps up with her parish community by reading the parish bulletin. Her household gives about $10 at the offertory collection. Mary does not use much Catholic media other than the bulletin and is not very active in their parish outside of attending Mass. She will probably never see this article. Her faith is important to her, but there are other things in her life that are equally important.

Surveys of pastors tell us Mary likely attends a parish established in the early 1920s that currently has room in the pews for about 450 people. Her parish has about 3,000 parishioners, of whom about 2,500 are registered (including Mary). She attends Mass on a typical Sunday with about 1,000 of them. They have four Masses to choose from—one in Spanish.

The parish used to have an elementary school, but this closed five years ago. Any interested students are now sent to a regional Catholic school shared and supported in collaboration with other nearby parishes. Her parish has a resident diocesan priest as pastor and a deacon. Most of the parish leadership is older than Mary—in their 50s, 60s and 70s. About 10 people are on the parish staff, and five of these individuals are in ministry positions.

Mary has heard that her diocese may go through a reorganization in the next decade. The bishop is doing his best to balance a difficult staffing equation. Soon the diocese’s parishes will outnumber the total number of active diocesan priests, which will require some parishes to share pastors and staff or to merge.

Of course this singular “average” portrait obscures an enormous amount of diversity within Catholicism in the United States. Mary could just as easily be “Maria,” her Hispanic counterpart among the 38 million “mainstream” Catholics who attend Mass at least once a month. Maria is slightly younger than Mary and has more children. She is less likely to be working and is living in a household that on average earns less than Mary’s.

Click here to continue reading.

How to Start a Discipleship Group the Easy Way

From Patheos
May 22, 2015 by Jennifer Fitz

Having just observed how desperate Catholics are for serious discipleship, I’d be remiss if I left you hanging on how to meet that need. Here’s about fifteen years of experience with discipleship groups across a variety of contexts (evangelical, Catholic, young adult, grown-ups, mixed-generations, mixed-gender, single-gender, etc. etc.) summed up in a blog post that will, yes, actually tell you what you need to know.

To start a discipleship group you need three things:
  1. A leader.
  2. An excuse to talk about your relationship with God.
  3. Beer (or non-alcoholic sustenance)
The beer isn’t optional, but it can be replaced, no problem, by a non-alcoholic stand-in if the situation so dictates, and the situation often does. But this is a Catholic blog, so we’ll use “beer” as the category name.

Let’s look at what we mean by each of these three things, why they matter, and how you might acquire them.

1. The Leader.
A successful group will have several specialist leaders, but the one you absolutely cannot do without is the person who knows the faith well enough to keep people from veering off the edges, and who isn’t afraid to step in as necessary.

This is because people are crazy.

The leader doesn’t need to be a genius or a scholar, but the leader needs to be able to say with confidence, “Nancy, I’m not sure whether those waffle-iron apparitions in Peoria have been approved yet. Let’s hold off on discussing them until I can find out more.”

Don’t try to start a discipleship group without this person.

Here are some other specialists that the best groups also contain, and any one of these can be the “official” leader, as long as the Master of Sanity is also present:
  • The person who keeps things organized. This is useful if you want to meet regularly, since not everyone is good at using a calendar.
  • The person who cares enough to call. It’s really nice if, when you get whisked to the hospital for emergency knee surgery, someone from your discipleship group notices your absence and maybe even arranges to feed your cat.
  • The person who feeds people. See #3 for more details.
It is contrary to the laws of anatomy for any one human brain to be especially gifted at all four of these roles. If you expect a single person to be the everything-leader, you’re nuts and your group is going to be awful. Get over it. Let the various group members share their talents, each doing what he or she does best, and all will go well.

2. The Excuse.
Discipleship groups are about this: You get together with other Christians in order to work on becoming less like the wretched slob everyone knows you are, and more like a person who does what Jesus says.

To that end, you’ll study the faith together, you’ll pray together, and you’ll talk about the difficulties or questions you face as a Christian. The exact proportions will vary.

Most groups can use a little structure to make this happen, and some groups need a lot of structure. Here are some options:
  • Buy an off-the-shelf Bible study and do the whole thing.
  • Read and discuss the Bible, portion and pace of your choice.
  • Talk about the day’s Mass readings.
  • Read and discuss a book, encyclical, or other spiritual work.
  • Watch a video series and have discussion time after each episode.
  • Use a prompt such as a daily devotional or an examination of conscience to get discussion started.
Note that if you hold a reading-based study, most of the people will not do the reading. One or two people will do the reading, and the other people will just use the general comments as a jumping-off point to chat about the faith.

This is not a problem. The study is not the end, it’s the means. The goal is to work on becoming more like the person God wants you to be, and literary slackers can do that from cribbed notes, not a problem. The love of God predates widespread literacy.

3. The Beer. Or some other sustenance.
The beer isn’t for getting drunk upon, that would be a mortal sin. Most of the groups I’ve been involved with used just regular food and, since this is the South, sweet tea (blech). But for a reason I cannot explain, but which causes your parish youth minister to develop an abiding friendship with the pizza guy, you really should plan to have refreshments.

This isn’t the leader’s job, the leader is busy keeping people from debating the details of the End Times. You don’t even have to make arrangements at the outset to provide refreshments. Just expect them. The person who does food is going to bring food, even unbidden, and the compulsive-organizer may well take it a step further and start orchestrating a proper spread.

If you are the person who really just wants to bring the napkins each week, that’s fine. You can be that person. The food-people don’t want to eat napkin-people’s cooking anyway.

But there will be food. It’s the law.

***

And that’s all you need to know. Find a leader, think up an excuse to get a group together and talking, and don’t worry about what you will eat. Done.

Tuesday, May 26, 2015

An Open Letter to Those Who Have Left the Catholic Church

From Swords of Truth
By kelleyswordsoftruth • May 22, 2015

I read on Facebook recently that a friend of a friend had left the Catholic Church. Now, I don’t even really know the guy, so I can’t say I understand his situation, but it made me sad that anyone – especially a young person – would have come to such a decision. I realize that lots of people leave the Church each year, and the reasons they do so are rarely simple. Yet, to make matters worse, we often avoid talking about it, not even asking what happened out of a sense of privacy for what we see as an individual and very personal decision. But such a response only has the opposite effect, convincing people all the more that their decision was the right one. “Does anyone even care?” they may wonder.

Because we are the Body of Christ, what happens to one, in a sense, happens to all.1 Whether we know it or not, we are affected when someone leaves the Church. It has to do with being part of the ‘communion of saints’: our actions do impact one another, for good or for bad.2 And though we may want to place blame on one side or another when someone leaves and that unity is broken, the fact is, we are all to blame; we are responsible for one another.

That being said, consider how many people do precisely the opposite: they join the Church. What is it that causes this phenomenon: that some choose to leave, while, at the same time, others enter? With all these ideas in mind, I’d like to share a few thoughts, addressing that young man and anyone who has fallen away from their Catholic faith:


Dear Child of God,

I heard about your decision to leave the Catholic Church. I pray it’s only for a time and that you’ll come back soon. You see, you are important to us. You have gifts and talents to offer and without them, our lives are diminished. God made you – and only you – the way you are for a particular reason; no one can take your place.

I hope that you’ll come to see that the Church has something to offer you, too: namely, the sacraments. You probably don’t remember your baptism, but on that day God placed an indelible mark on your soul and claimed you for His own.3 It was a glorious moment and all the angels rejoiced! Then there was your First Holy Communion. Do you remember how special it felt to get all dressed up and receive the Eucharist for the first time? Why did everyone make such a big deal out of it? Because it was a big deal; it was the beginning of a beautiful love story between you and God, of understanding how He laid down His life for you.

Jesus comes to us in the Eucharist so we can see Him, touch Him, and taste Him. The Eucharist is no ordinary piece of bread; it’s ‘food for the journey.’4 You are what you eat, and God gives us the Eucharist to mysteriously strengthen and transform us. Have you ever noticed that maybe you feel more peaceful – or perhaps your day somehow seems to go better – after going to Mass?

And we mustn’t forget Confirmation and Reconciliation…receiving the power of His Spirit to guide and strengthen us, and knowing with confidence that we can be forgiven of literally every offense. Of course, we know that nothing is beyond God’s mercy, but sometimes it’s important to hear those words, that we are forgiven. Even if you never made it past your First Communion, that’s okay. It’s not about fulfilling an obligation or merely filling in all the blanks. It’s about growing closer to God and becoming aware of His great love for us. And it’s never too late! The Church is here – ready and willing – to help you continue your journey whenever the time is right.

And that’s where we – the People who make up the Church – come in. What an awesome responsibility the Lord has given us: to be His instruments – His hands and feet – in the world. The Church is not a mere institution; rather it is a “mystery that is simultaneously human and divine.”5 Though God chooses to work through us, sadly we don’t always get it right. If it was our apparent lack of love that caused you to leave, I’m sincerely sorry. We do love you, but sometimes don’t show it very well. Like all people, we get caught up in our own lives or fail to see that what you need most is compassion and understanding.

Click here to continue reading.

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

Is “Religion” Most to Blame for the World’s Violence? Not Even Close

by Joseph Heschmeyer
ChurchPOP

A few months ago, a “gun-toting atheist” and self-proclaimed “anti-theist” killed three Muslims in Chapel Hill, North Carolina. There was some question about whether the killer was motivated by atheism or some other motivation.

What there’s no question of is that much of the secular response was predictably tasteless and exploitative. For example, the Daily Beast’s Suzi Parker responded with an essay on how hard it is to be Muslim “in the most religious—and Christian—part of the country.” How are Christians to blame for this one, again?

CNN’s response was perhaps worse, lumping the Chapel Hill murders in with seven other attacks as examples of “religion’s week from hell,” blaming the attacks on the “religious violence” that either “is fueled by faith or is a symptom of larger factors.” There’s been a lot of talk lately about so-called “victim blaming,” and it’s something of a nebulous term, but I think that blaming religious people for an atheist murdering them probably constitutes victim blaming.

The Chapel Hill murders have upset the popular “religion is what makes people violent” narrative, and both the Daily Beast and CNN’s response amounted to shutting their collective eyes and repeating the “religious people are bad” mantra.

So let’s talk about that narrative: is it true that religion is the main cause of violence in the world? Or if not all violence, what about terrorism? Or if not all terrorism, what about suicide bombings?


I. Which Group Commits the Most Terrorist Attacks? The Most Suicide Bombings?

In The End of Faith: Religion, Terror, and the Future of Reason, Sam Harris tries to lump “religion” in with “terror,” pitting the two against “reason.” He opens with this story:
The young man boards the bus as it leaves the terminal. He wears an overcoat. Beneath his overcoat, he is wearing a bomb. His pockets are filled with nails, ball bearings, and rat poison. The bus is crowded and headed for the heart of the city. […] The young man smiles. With the press of a button he destroys himself, the couple at his side, and twenty others on the bus. […] The young man’s parents soon learn of his fate. Although saddened to have lost a son, they feel tremendous pride at his accomplishment. They know that he has gone to heaven and prepared the way for them to follow. He has also sent his victims to hell for eternity. It is a double victory.
At this point, he hasn’t told you the man’s religion (although his inclusion of Heaven and Hell in his story conveniently exonerate atheists). He then asks, rhetorically:

Why is it so easy, then, so trivially easy, “you-could-almost-bet-your-life-on-it easy,” to guess the young man’s religion?

As I’ve mentioned before, Harris wants you to guess Muslim, an answer he claims is “you-could-almost-bet-your-life-on-it easy.” But there’s just one problem with this claim, which is that it’s factually incorrect. Worse, Harris knows this, but buries that fact in an endnote:

Some readers may object that the bomber in question is most likely to be a member of the Liberations [sic] Tigers of Tamil Eelam—the Sri Lankan separatist organization that has perpetuated more acts of suicidal terrorism [sic] than any other group.

So if you bet your life on the suicide bomber being a Muslim, chances are, you were wrong.

And the Tamil Tigers aren’t just the deadliest in regards to suicide bombings. They’re the deadliest terrorist group on earth, period. You can check out the numbers for yourself at the University of Maryland’s Global Terrorism Database or Periscope’s summary by group. Since 1975, the Tigers have killed nearly 11,000 people and wounded nearly 11,000 more.

If you’re not familiar with the Tamil Tigers, here’s how the Library of Congress describes them:
Liberation Tigers of Tamil Eelam (LTTE) strongest of Tamil separatist groups, founded in 1972 when Tamil youth espousing a Marxist ideology and an independent Tamil state established a group called the Tamil New Tigers; name changed in 1976.
The University of Chicago’s Robert A. Pape, whom Harris cites in the endnote, is even more direct:
“Religious fanaticism does not explain why the world leader in suicide terrorism is the Tamil Tigers in Sri Lanka, a group that adheres to a Marxist/Leninist ideology.” Marxist-Leninist groups are hardly what you’d call “religious.” Here’s what Lenin had to say about religion:
The philosophical basis of Marxism, as Marx and Engels repeatedly declared, is dialectical materialism, which has fully taken over the historical traditions of eighteenth-century materialism in France and of Feuerbach (first half of the nineteenth century) in Germany—a materialism which is absolutely atheistic and positively hostile to all religion. […]
Religion is the opium of the people—this dictum by Marx is the corner-stone of the whole Marxist outlook on religion.[1] Marxism has always regarded all modern religions and churches, and each and every religious organisation, as instruments of bourgeois reaction that serve to defend exploitation and to befuddle the working class.

So the deadliest terrorist group in the world, and the one responsible for the most suicide bombings in history isn’t just a secular group, but one advancing an ideology that is “is absolutely atheistic and positively hostile to all religion.”

Nor are the Tamil Tigers an isolated case in this regard. The 25 deadliest terrorist groups in the world are responsible for most of the terror deaths since 1975. And the Tigers are just one of several Marxist-Leninist, Maoist, and Communist groups on that short list. They’re joined by Peru’s Shining Path, El Salvador’s FMLN, Colombia FARC, the Kurdistan Worker’s Party, the Philippines’ New People’s Army, Angola’s UNITA, the Communist Party of India (Maoist), Spain’s Basque Homeland and Freedom (ETA), Colombia’s National Liberation Army (ELN), and Chile’s Manuel Rodríguez Patriotic Front (FPMR).

II. Is Religion the Chief Cause of the World’s Violence?

Having seen that the world’s deadliest suicide bombers and the world’s deadliest terrorist group are the Marxist-Leninist Tamil Tigers, what about the world’s deadliest ideologies? Compare the number of killings done in the name of religion to the number of killings done in the name of an anti-religious ideology.

At the top of the list of the twentieth century’s deadliest regimes, you’ll find three anti-religious states: Communist China, the USSR, and Nazi Germany. These three alone were responsible for an estimated 130,000,000 victims, which dwarfs the number of people killed in the name of all religions throughout all of history. And that number doesn’t even take into account the millions killed by Pol Pot’s Khmer Rogue, the Communist North Korean regime, or the Derg (the Ethiopian Communist state, headed by Mengistu Haile Mariam).

Religion isn’t the cause of most of the world’s violence: it’s not even close. In fact, in each of the deadliest states of the twentieth century, we see the same pattern: an aggressive campaign to neutralize or eliminate religious belief (and believers). Ross Douthat pointed this out, using the example of the Soviet Union, in a debate with Bill Maher:
Maher: “Someone once said: to have a normal person commit a horrible act almost never happens without religion. To have people get on a plane and fly it into a building, it had to be religion.”
Douthat: “I think that what’s true is: to get a normal person to commit a crazy act, it does take ideas, right? But those ideas can be secular as well as religious. A lot of normal people …”
Maher: “But mostly, in history, they’ve been religious.”
Douthat: “Not in the twentieth century. Not in the Soviet Union. A lot of dead bodies there, not a lot of Christians… except among the dead bodies.”
Maher: “I would say that’s a secular religion.” (Maher then quickly shut down debate before Douthat could respond.)
In a way, Maher ends up conceding one of Douthat’s points: that secular ideas can be just as deadly religious ones (and in fact, have been many times deadlier). But Douthat’s other point is worth drawing out: religious belief serves not only as a potential motivator for violence, but as a check against state totalitarianism.

For a totalitarian regime, religion is dangerous. As a believer, I recognize that human rights come from God, not the state or social convention. I recognize that there’s an authority higher than the state to Whom both I and the state leadership will someday be accountable.

It’s precisely this sort of belief system that serves as a check on ideology and state authority that made these Soviet and Nazi states so anti-religious: they don’t want you to render unto both God and Caesar. They want you to obey Caesar alone.

That’s one reason that the bloodiest regimes in history have tended to be atheistic and anti-religious. But there may be a second, related point. Maher calls Soviet totalitarianism a “secular religion,” and that’s something of a cop-out. He’s trying to pin all the blame for violence on religion, by labelling all potentially-violent ideas as “religious,” even (as in the case of Soviet Communism) the ideology’s founder and adherents were fiercely anti-religious. This evasion would seem to turn everything, even atheism, into at least a “secular religion.”

But Maher may yet be on to something in referring to these totalitarian systems as a “religion” of sorts. Nazism and Soviet Communism did mimic religions in certain fashions, and did hold themselves out (implicitly and, at times, explicitly) as replacements for religion. That’s because there’s something inescapable about religion. Michael Crichton described the phenomenon like this:
I studied anthropology in college, and one of the things I learned was that certain human social structures always reappear. They can’t be eliminated from society. One of those structures is religion. Today it is said we live in a secular society in which many people—the best people, the most enlightened people—do not believe in any religion. But I think that you cannot eliminate religion from the psyche of mankind. If you suppress it in one form, it merely re-emerges in another form. You can not believe in God, but you still have to believe in something that gives meaning to your life, and shapes your sense of the world. Such a belief is religious.
At its core, this is a rudimentary point. All of us operate according to our beliefs about the world. Sometimes, we’re conscious of this, sometimes, we’re not, but we do it all the same. And these worldviews are heavily influenced by what we believe, or disbelieve, about religion.

Christianity carries with it beliefs about every human being made in the image of God, and being worthy of dignity and respect, along with the notion that we’ll be held accountable for our evil actions. If we really believe these things, these beliefs can’t help but shape how we interact with the world. And when people stop believing these things, it’s not surprising that something else sweeps in to fill that void. Sometimes, as in Crichton’s talk, that religion-replacement is a movement like environmentalism. Other times, it’s something much darker.

III. Which Religion?

I said in the last point that religion can either motivate you to commit violent acts (as with ISIS) or it can motivate you to resist violence and tyranny (as with the 21 Coptic Christians recently martyred by ISIS). But on the question of whether religion will spur or spurn violence, a lot depends on which religion we’re talking about.

All of this brings me to my last point: the whole question of whether or not “religion” is violent is badly-formed. People don’t believe in “religion.” They believe in a particular religion, and different religions teach different things. Given this, we need to stop pretending that all religions are equally prone to violent extremism, as if a Quaker is as likely as a Wahhabist to be responsible for the next terrorist attack. That idea is both illogical and directly contrary to the empirical data (here again, I’d point you to the Global Terrorism Database or Periscope summary).

Denouncing “religion” for the sins of radical Islam is disingenuous, akin to blaming “politics” for the Holocaust. “Religion” wasn’t to blame, but one particular, violent religious movement, just as the Holocaust was the fault of one particular, violent political movement. In both religion and politics, we’re dealing with sets of ideas — ideas about God, morality, human dignity, and the like — and ideas have consequences. Good ideas tend to have good consequences, while bad ideas tend to have the opposite. Treating all ideas as if they’re equally valid is ridiculous.

That’s why it’s foolish to approach this question in the way that it’s typically formed – whether or not “religion” is to blame – and why it’s wrong to blame all religion for the actions of a few (or one). Using violence done in the name of a particular religion to justify hating all religion is no better than the Daily Beast using violence committed by an irreligious atheist against Muslims as a stick with which to bash Christians.

Originally posted on Shameless Popery.

Thursday, May 14, 2015

Meet Emma, a Story of Hope

Here is some of the good work being done by Sole Hope, an organization we supported by cutting out shoes from old jeans this spring and which our Diocese of Boise is supporting as part of the year focused on social justice.
 

By Lis Steckle on May 13, 2015 03:56 pm

Meet Emma! Emma is a sweet 12-year-old boy, but he isn’t like most other children his age. You won’t find him running around playing soccer at the Sole Hope Outreach House, and you often won’t see him joining in on group games. Emma can’t run around for very long – even after a few minutes of standing, he has to sit down. The reason Emma doesn’t join in on most physical activity is because he has an extremely swollen right arm and the weight is too much for his little body to carry around. Although Emma has a severe physical disability, he is one of the most joy-filled, loving boys you will ever meet. He lights up every room he enters with his beautiful smile and constant laughter.


For the past two years, Emma’s entire right arm has grown and expanded to the point that he can no longer lift his arm or even move his fingers. It has persistently caused him pain and limits his everyday functioning. The swelling continues from his arm, up his neck, and down part of his back. His grandfather, who was his primary caregiver for many years, did not understand what was causing the swelling and he did not have the means to seek medical attention. On a few occasions, they sought to use village medicine and herbal remedies to heal his arm but nothing stopped his arm from growing.


It was during a village jigger removal clinic that we met Emma. Although he didn’t have jiggers, Emma’s family had heard that Sole Hope would be working in the village near his home and they came to seek help. When we met them in the village and heard about Emma’s story, we knew we needed to assist them in some way. Emma and his current caretaker, Auntie Sarah, were brought back that same day to the Sole Hope Outreach House. We wanted to provide a means for them to begin to find answers.


Peter, one of the Sole Hope social workers, assisted Emma and Auntie Sarah to multiple different doctors. At first, there was talk about cancer and amputation. Thankfully, after a visit to two other specialists, it was concluded there was no cancer, but instead there was a problem with the lymphatic tissue in his arm that was not draining properly. We were all praising Jesus as the options for treatment were much more hopeful! The doctor fit Emma with a compression sleeve that he now wears every single day. Although it often causes him great pain as it moves the fluid out his arm, we have begun to see progress! Emma is now able to wiggle his thumb, which was not possible just a few weeks ago! The Sole Hope tailors are also continually needing to sew his compression sleeve tighter as it is now too big for his arm.


Emma will stay with us at the Sole Hope Outreach House as he continues his journey back to health and recovery. We are hopeful that there will be continued healing and that one day we will see Emma running around playing soccer with the other children his age, free of pain and physical limitation!

All photos by Kayla Cervenka.