Showing posts with label Core. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Core. Show all posts

Friday, August 4, 2017

Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?

From The Atlantic, By Jene M. Twenge

More comfortable online than out partying, post-Millennials are safer, physically, than adolescents have ever been. But they’re on the brink of a mental-health crisis.


One day last summer, around noon, I called Athena, a 13-year-old who lives in Houston, Texas. She answered her phone—she’s had an iPhone since she was 11—sounding as if she’d just woken up. We chatted about her favorite songs and TV shows, and I asked her what she likes to do with her friends. “We go to the mall,” she said. “Do your parents drop you off?,” I asked, recalling my own middle-school days, in the 1980s, when I’d enjoy a few parent-free hours shopping with my friends. “No—I go with my family,” she replied. “We’ll go with my mom and brothers and walk a little behind them. I just have to tell my mom where we’re going. I have to check in every hour or every 30 minutes.”

Those mall trips are infrequent—about once a month. More often, Athena and her friends spend time together on their phones, unchaperoned. Unlike the teens of my generation, who might have spent an evening tying up the family landline with gossip, they talk on Snapchat, the smartphone app that allows users to send pictures and videos that quickly disappear. They make sure to keep up their Snapstreaks, which show how many days in a row they have Snapchatted with each other. Sometimes they save screenshots of particularly ridiculous pictures of friends. “It’s good blackmail,” Athena said. (Because she’s a minor, I’m not using her real name.) She told me she’d spent most of the summer hanging out alone in her room with her phone. That’s just the way her generation is, she said. “We didn’t have a choice to know any life without iPads or iPhones. I think we like our phones more than we like actual people.”

I’ve been researching generational differences for 25 years, starting when I was a 22-year-old doctoral student in psychology. Typically, the characteristics that come to define a generation appear gradually, and along a continuum. Beliefs and behaviors that were already rising simply continue to do so. Millennials, for instance, are a highly individualistic generation, but individualism had been increasing since the Baby Boomers turned on, tuned in, and dropped out. I had grown accustomed to line graphs of trends that looked like modest hills and valleys. Then I began studying Athena’s generation.

Around 2012, I noticed abrupt shifts in teen behaviors and emotional states. The gentle slopes of the line graphs became steep mountains and sheer cliffs, and many of the distinctive characteristics of the Millennial generation began to disappear. In all my analyses of generational data—some reaching back to the 1930s—I had never seen anything like it.

At first I presumed these might be blips, but the trends persisted, across several years and a series of national surveys. The changes weren’t just in degree, but in kind. The biggest difference between the Millennials and their predecessors was in how they viewed the world; teens today differ from the Millennials not just in their views but in how they spend their time. The experiences they have every day are radically different from those of the generation that came of age just a few years before them.

What happened in 2012 to cause such dramatic shifts in behavior? It was after the Great Recession, which officially lasted from 2007 to 2009 and had a starker effect on Millennials trying to find a place in a sputtering economy. But it was exactly the moment when the proportion of Americans who owned a smartphone surpassed 50 percent.

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Monday, May 15, 2017

Mother Teresa's Words to the Sisters of Charity...and to Us


Jesus wants me to tell you again...how much love He has for each one of you—beyond all you can imagine. I worry some of you still have not really met Jesus—one to one—you and Jesus alone. We may spend time in chapel—but have you seen with the eyes of your soul how He looks at you with love? Do you really know the living Jesus—not from books but from being with Him in your heart? Have you heard the loving words He speaks to you? Ask for the grace, He is longing to give it. Until you can hear Jesus in the silence of your own heart, you will not be able to hear Him saying “I thirst” in the hearts of the poor. Never give up this daily intimate contact with Jesus as the real living person—not just the idea. How can we last even one day without hearing Jesus say “I love you”—impossible.

Our soul needs that as much as the body needs to breathe the air. If not, prayer is dead—meditation-only thinking. Jesus wants you each to hear Him—speaking in the silence of your heart. Be careful of all that can block that personal contact with the living Jesus. The devil may try to use the hurts of life, and sometimes our own mistakes—to make you feel it is impossible that Jesus really loves you, is really cleaving to you. This is a danger for all of us. And so sad, because it is completely opposite of what Jesus is really wanting, waiting to tell you. Not only that He loves you, but even more—He longs for you. He misses you when you don’t come close.

He thirsts for you. He loves you always, even when you don’t feel worthy. When not accepted by others, even by yourself sometimes—He is the one who always accepts you. My children, you don’t have to be different for Jesus to love you.

Only believe—You are precious to Him. Bring all you are suffering to His feet—only open your heart to be loved by Him as your are. He will do the rest.

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

Don't We All


I was parked in front of the mall wiping off my car. I had just come from the car wash and was waiting for my wife to get out of work. Coming my way from across the parking lot was what society would consider a bum. From the looks of him, he had no car, no home, no clean clothes, and no money. There are times when you feel generous but there are other times that you just don't want to be bothered. This was one of those "don't want to be bothered times."

"I hope he doesn't ask me for any money," I thought.

He didn't.

He came and sat on the curb in front of the bus stop but he didn't look like he could have enough money to even ride the bus.

After a few minutes he spoke.

"That's a very pretty car," he said.

He was ragged but he had an air of dignity around him. His scraggly blond beard keep more than his face warm.

I said, "thanks," and continued wiping off my car.

He sat there quietly as I worked. The expected plea for money never came. As the silence between us widened something inside said, "ask him if he needs any help." I was sure that he would say "yes" but I held true to the inner voice.

"Do you need any help?" I asked.

He answered in three simple but profound words that I shall never forget. We often look for wisdom in great men and women. We expect it from those of higher learning and accomplishments. I expected nothing but an outstretched grimy hand. He spoke the three words that shook me.

"Don't we all?" he said.

I was feeling high and mighty, successful and important, above a bum in the street, until those three words hit me like a twelve gauge shotgun.

Don't we all?

I needed help. Maybe not for bus fare or a place to sleep, but I needed help. I reached in my wallet and gave him not only enough for bus fare, but enough to get a warm meal and shelter for the day. Those three little words still ring true. No matter how much you have, no matter how much you have accomplished, you need help too. No matter how little you have, no matter how loaded you are with problems, even without money or a place to sleep, you can give help. Even if it's just a compliment, you can give that.

You never know when you may see someone that appears to have it all. They are waiting on you to give them what they don't have. A different perspective on life, a glimpse at something beautiful, a respite from daily chaos, that only you through a torn world can see.

Maybe the man was just a homeless stranger wandering the streets. Maybe he was more than that. Maybe he was sent by a power that is great and wise, to minister to a soul too comfortable in themselves.

Maybe God looked down, called an Angel, dressed him like a bum, then said, "go minister to that man cleaning the car, that man needs help."

Don't we all?

-- Author Unknown

Sunday, January 8, 2017

A Note to Good Fighters

Dear Good Fighters,

Between the long Christmas break and the snow causing us to cancel Family Ministry, I miss you. Like most of you, I've been stuck at home the last couple weeks. I've been trying to get everything ready for our upcoming meetings and ministry, but there's only so much I can do at home. At Mass today, Fr. Radmar preached at St. Paul's BSU about ENCOUNTER. He even had us turn to someone we didn't know, learn the person's name, and encounter the person for one minute. Our faith, our Church, and our God are all about the ENCOUNTER.

Even though you may be stuck at home, God wants to ENCOUNTER you today.

God wants a relationship with you. God wants to love you. God wants you to let him love you. We have so many broken relationships around us (including our relationship with ourselves), but our relationship with God is the one relationship that will never be broken. You are loved as you are, loved where you are going, and loved without condition.

This Sunday at Good Fighters our topic was going to be FOLLOW: How does God guide us into the full life? Even though we can't meet, I invite you to watch the Alpha video below. Think about it. Pray about it. Talk about it. Then, if you're serious about encountering God, journal about this question:

Let’s say God has a plan for your life. Imagine God is giving you a guidebook to SEEK, FIND, and FULFILL that plan. Based on what you know about God, your life experience, what we’ve covered at Good Fighters, your gifts and desires, and your purpose in life, write what you imagine God telling you in your personalized guidebook.

We will add to the Guidebooks in the coming weeks. God is speaking to us. God wants to encounter us. Are we listening? I hope so.

Trying to FOLLOW and ENCOUNTER God alongside you,

Daniel

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

10 Tips on the Art and Craft of Evangelization

 
By Joe Heschmeyer
ShamelessPopery.com (See it in original form here)

Are you interested in sharing the faith more? Are you worried that you don’t know how to answer your co-workers’ and friends’ questions? 1 Peter 3:15 calls us to “always be prepared to make a defense to any one who calls you to account for the hope that is in you, yet do it with gentleness and reverence; and keep your conscience clear, so that, when you are abused, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame.” That’s a tall order. Here are ten tips that might help.

1. Apologetics takes practice
Apologetics and evangelization are a bit like dancing. You can read all about it, you can even watch other people do it, but if you’re ever going to get good at it you’ve got to get out there and actually do it. And don’t get discouraged if you’re not great at it at first.

2. Win the person, not the argument.
There’s no point in “winning” the argument and being technically correct, if you’ve done so in a way that ostracizes and alienates the other person. J. Budziszewski has a series of good tips for doing this: I highly recommend this video. It changed how I talked to (and thought about) non-Catholics and non-believers.

In short, try to figure out why the person is asking the question(s) that they are. Often you can answer objection after objection, but you never get to the root reason they won’t accept the faith, Christ, etc. Only when you understand where they are coming from can you truly help them and know how to go forward with the discussion.

3. Consider sources of authority.
In this same vein of knowing the person you’re trying to reach, know what the person will accept. If a daily Mass-going Catholic questions you about a particular doctrine, it might be enough simply to point them to the relevant paragraph in the Catechism, or the pertinent papal document. But if the same question is being asked by an atheist, you’re going to have to look to an authority (reason, natural law, something) that they will accept. Jesus went out of his way to answer the Sadducees only from the Torah because he knew they only would accept it.

4. Charity is more important than the perfect answer.
You’re inviting a person to the faith, into a relationship with Jesus: remember, you’re trying to win the person, not the argument. If you’re in it to win the argument, you’re in it for your ego, not their salvation. Given that, being a jerk and winning the argument gets you nowhere (nor does it help them).

But this has some important implications. It means that even if you’re not great at apologetics, even if you can never remember chapter and verse in the heat of the moment, even if you’re the worst debater in the world, you can still be an effective evangelist simply by being loving. Think about how successful the Mormons are. Theologically, their system doesn’t make a ton of sense, and they actively avoid theological debates, but they’re incredibly nice. They tend to be wonderful to be around. The world is filled with broken, hurting people who are hungry for healing and for God. Sometimes, your Christlike attitude towards them can show them the Answer that they’re looking for a lot more effectively than a bunch of syllogisms.

And look, this isn’t some perk: it’s an essential part of evangelization. Remember 1 Peter 3:15-16, which I quoted above? Peter tells us to evangelize “with gentleness and reverence,” and with a clear conscience. If we fail to do this, we’ve simply failed to live out the Gospel’s commands.

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Tuesday, October 25, 2016

12 Most Important Metrics for your Child’s (and your) Education

By Matthew Warner
Flocknote.com

We worry a lot about “education” in this country. On a political level we bicker and argue about why one state’s math scores are higher than another’s. And at home, we put our kids through a heck of a lot (and we sacrifice a lot) to make sure they pass their tests, know how to read and write, and can regurgitate their multiplication tables. We even stress about whether they are able to do so at the right age, or whether they are 6 months ahead or behind the other kids.

And all of that is important – but it’s nowhere near as important as a lot of other things in life that end up getting a lot less attention.

When my kids are grown, it won’t really matter if they got an A or a B in 7th grade history. It won’t really matter how far they can hit a baseball. It won’t really even matter much if they’ve made a lot of money or been “successful” according to the world. What will matter much more is this:
  1. Are they humble – not that they think less of themselves, but that they think of themselves less.
  2. Do they know how to be loved – are they humble and secure enough to be vulnerable.
  3. Are they at peace – which means knowing who they are.
  4. Are they filled with joy – because they live with a hope that transcends this short life.
  5. Do they know they are small – that the world is not about them.
  6. Do they know they are giants – that, to somebody, they mean the whole world.
  7. Are they adventurous – willing to embrace a faith that will take them beyond the prison of their own limits.
  8. Are they imaginative – able to see that the best parts of life cannot be measured or touched.
  9. Do they embrace the moment – knowing that the present moment is the only moment they’ll ever have.
  10. Are they virtuous – aspiring to the best parts of their nature.
  11. Do they know how to give generously – because to give of yourself is the only way to find yourself.
  12. Do they know how to love – because this is what they were made to do (and because I’ve shown them by loving them every day unconditionally and by introducing them to a God who loves them perfectly).
This is what I’d like my kids to learn. This is what “success” looks like. This is what I’d like them to “want to be when they grow up.” Everything else with the classes and the homework and the tests and the career path is all bonus.

You can earn a college degree without learning a single one of these things – and these are far more important life lessons. But, ultimately, if my kids don’t learn them, it’s nobody’s fault but mine.

Sunday, September 11, 2016

24 Unstoppable Catholic Women Doing Amazing Things for God

By Becky Roach, Catholic Link

Have you ever heard it said that the Catholic Church oppresses women? Many are quick to pass judgment on what they think is the truth of the Catholic faith. In reality, the opposite is true. The Catholic Church esteems women and calls us to live out the beauty of our femininity in a way that brings glory and honor to God.

Today, we have compiled a list of 24 inspiring Catholic women that show there is no oppression going on in the Chuch. This list includes women that range in age, location, occupation, and stage in life. They are a diverse group that proves the Catholic Church calls women to be active in sharing the faith. These women lead conferences, write books, and travel the word sharing the Good News of Christ. Many have founded apostolates that are impacting thousands of people each day.

I want to note that I purposely did not include any religious sisters. Of course, there are many outstanding consecrated women doing great things for the Lord (and we will present a list of those women soon!), but this list is focused specifically on those women involved in lay apostolates. This was done to prove to the critics that ALL women in the Catholic faith can and do work to further the Kingdom of God.

1. Helen Alvare
Helen is a professor of Law at George Mason University. She frequently speaks about family planning and has written a book titled, "Breaking Through: Catholic Women Speak for Themselves." (http://amzn.to/2c3qtHl)

2. Rachel Balducci
Rachel Balducci is a blogger (http://testosterhome.net), newspaper columnist, and author. She often writes about parenting issues and the faith. Check out her book, "How Do You Tuck In A Superhero." (http://amzn.to/2cgLpyh)

Click here to see the complete list.

Sunday, August 21, 2016

Alpha

We are going to start a new series this fall called ALPHA. It's a chance to ask the biggest, most important questions of our lives as human beings. Will you come on this journey?

Get ready for ALPHA, beginning the first week of October.


Thursday, August 18, 2016

St. Teresa of Calcutta in One Infographic

Click on the infographic to enlarge. This comes from our friends at ChurchPop.com. See it in its original form here.
 

Wednesday, August 17, 2016

Be a Coach

Matthew Kelly's newest book is Resisting Happiness. Below is an excerpt that reminded me of how important our role can be as spiritual coaches for teens and clarified what that role should be. If you imagine him saying spiritual coach every time he says coach, it will make sense.

Whenever I speak to the coaches, I warn them about one scenario. "You are going to be tempted to judge yourself as a coach by how well your participants perform. That's a mistake and it leads to a bad place. Your participants' successes and failures are their own. You cannot take credit for their successes, and you cannot take blame for their failures. Your job is to coach them well by faithfully following the coaching program. Otherwise you will end up crossing a line that a coach should never cross. You will find yourself in a place where you want it for them more than they want it for themselves. Then you will make your first mistake. You will do something for them that they should be doing for themselves. You will think you are helping them, but it is a lie and you know it. Your job is to empower those you coach; when you do for them what they should be doing for themselves, you create entitlement and dependency rather than empowerment. It is incredibly frustrating when you see amazing possibilities for the people you are coaching, and you want it more for them than they want it for themselves. Don't give in to that frustration!"

God wants you to be happy even more than you want it yourself.

Imagine how frustrated God is with us, seeing all that is possible and knowing how we squander so much. But he will not cross the line. He will not step over your free will. God wants to empower you for mission. He has put you in this world for a specific mission, but first he has to prepare you.

God wants heaven for you even more than you want it for yourself.

Saturday, August 6, 2016

Life and Death

Death scares us for many reasons. We are reminded of our own mortality—we will all die at some point. We mourn a life ending—a precious, unrepeatable life. We long for our loved one knowing he or she is gone—perhaps wondering about his or her fate. We adjust our lives in a new direction—a direction that can be unknown and painful. Death is scary. It always will be.

Though Jesus conquered death, though his Resurrection is meant to take the sting away, though Heaven is our ultimate goal and destination, though we have a Savior, we still get scared. We still mourn. We still struggle. And that’s OK.

Last week, two local teenagers died. Middleton teen Tucker Kunz lost his life in an automobile accident, and Rachel Dean, a student from Bishop Kelly and St. Mark’s Church, ended her earthly life. She must have felt an overwhelming multitude of emotions, perhaps deep loneliness and hopelessness. Though we may speculate, we cannot know all Rachel thought or felt. We cannot know her motivation or the sum of her experiences. We cannot assign blame to her or anyone.

But what can we do? We can and should mourn Tucker and Rachel. We can talk about Tucker and Rachel. We can talk about losing someone, especially someone so young. We can journal about how it saddens and scares us. We can share our sorrow with others and build up one another. We can do some of our favorite things Tucker and Rachel loved to do. We can hold a funeral and commend Tucker and Rachel to God’s care. We can pray for their eternal rest, for the comfort of their loved ones, and for our own understanding of the tragedy. Prayer doesn’t change God’s mind. Rather, prayer changes us. Prayer invites us to enter the story of creation God is authoring, to better understand and accept the joys and sorrows of this life.

Most of all, we can honor Tucker and Rachel by honoring the lives of each person we encounter. Every human life is precious and unrepeatable, no matter the choices a person makes. Disagree on politics? That person is still precious. Have an annoying sibling? Your sibling is precious. A beautiful newborn baby? Precious. A premature newborn baby with severe complications? Precious. An elderly person with dementia? Precious. Your most despised enemy? Precious. Your best friend? Precious.

Every single life matters. Tucker's life matters. Rachel’s life matters. Your life matters. Mine does too. Our lives matter because God made us, loves us, and put a reflection of Himself within us. The best way we can honor Tucker and Rachel, honor God, and honor ourselves is to treat every person with respect and love. We may not like every person we encounter (an internal emotional response), but we absolutely must love every person (an action-oriented choice).

That’s why we love babies in the womb, pregnant women, elderly, sick and suffering in need of comfort, children, those with disabilities, soldiers, refugees, homeless, hungry, lonely, lost, and vulnerable. Every life matters.

We celebrate life, and today, we celebrate Tucker and Rachel as their funerals takes place. Though they left us at a young age, their lives have great meaning. If they remind us to treat others with great love, then their legacy will continue long beyond earthly life. May the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace. Amen.

Wednesday, July 13, 2016

About All that Catholic Money: How the Church Serves the World, By the Numbers

This post is from ChurchPop.com. See it in its original form here.

“Whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.” – Jesus, Matthew 25.40

The Catholic Church does more to serve those in need than any other private organization in the world.

From Agenzia Fides, here are some numbers that represent at least a part of what the Church does (as of 2014):


Africa
Primary schools: 36,613 Secondary schools: 12,060
Hospitals: 1,298
Dispensaries: 5,256
Leprosy centers: 229
Homes for the elderly: 632
Orphanages: 1,398
Marriage counseling centers: 1,728

Asia
Primary schools: 16,097
Secondary schools: 10,450
Hospitals: 1,137
Dispensaries: 3,760
Leprosy centers: 322
Homes for the elderly: 2,520
Orphanages: 3,980
Marriage counseling centers: 933

The Americas
Primary schools: 23,195
Secondary schools: 10,965
Hospitals: 1,493
Dispensaries: 5,137
Leprosy centers: 72
Homes for the elderly: 3,815
Orphanages: 2,418
Marriage counseling centers: 5,636

Europe
Primary schools: 15,884
Secondary schools: 9,633
Hospitals: 1,039
Dispensaries: 2,637
Leprosy centers: 21
Homes for the elderly: 8,200
Orphanages: 2,194
Marriage counseling centers: 6,173

Oceania
Primary schools: 3,456
Secondary schools: 675
Hospitals: 200
Dispensaries: 532
Leprosy centers: 4
Homes for the elderly: 537
Orphanages: 134
Marriage counseling centers: 274

Thursday, June 30, 2016

Shifting Into a New Relationship

There will be conflict and arguments in relationships; it’s inevitable. But, we don’t have to let those situations cause irreparable damage. In this video, Fr. Mike Schmitz explains how conflict can help a couple move forward together. The key is to reassure each other that you’re both on the same team, and that you both have the same goal in mind—even though you may sometimes disagree when it comes to how to get there.